It Hurt Because It Mattered

So often we try to make
other people feel better
by minimizing their pain,
by telling them that it will
get better (which it will)
or that there are worse things
in the world (which there are).
But that’s not what
I actually needed.
What I actually needed
was for someone to tell me
that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful
to think about over the years,
and I find that it is a lot easier
and more bearable to be sad
when you aren’t constantly
berating yourself for being sad.

John Green



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